Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...

Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...

Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...

Tips for identifying abuse with the BDSM community and power exchange relationship

Since Thanksgiving is this week in the United States, I am going to step out of the series of posts on community building and give thanks...

I love protocols. I have found safety and security in protocol for years. It helps me get into submissive head space. It can create...

Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...

I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...

Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...

Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...