I have been away from this blog for a couple of weeks due to illness. For two and a half years I have been trying to get some chronic...

I want to talk about sources and research about BDSM and D/s relationships. With the development of the Internet, it has become very easy...

Okay, yes, I have done a lot of things. And yes, I have done a lot of people. And sure, I talk about some of it. But, no I haven’t done...

I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/grownups.png xkcd.com/150/ In many, many ways I am a nerd. I am an academic and still default to researching...

HIV/AIDS has played a prominent role in my life. The first volunteer work I started with at 13 was volunteering for an AIDS organization...

Guys, some of us girls have found out your secrets. We know that there are a lot of you who use online dating sites to find Ms. Right Now...

One of the things I like most about the BDSM/kink community is the presence of rules and structure. These come in basic rules for...

My last post about sub space got a flood of responses. Most of the 3,000+ people who replied here and on Fetlife were very complimentary....

Image from www.korucorner.co.nz All rights reserved. When I was an undergrad, I took a course on altered states of consciousness. The...

There is a local comedian in Sacramento who does a great joke. She starts with the premise that her parents used to spank her. Now, she...

Okay, I get that most people not in the kink community believe that kink and BDSM only refer to sex. I get that kink and BDSM are very...

Copyright Eddy-Shinjuku. All rights reserved. I have the great pleasure of talking to lots of people about their fantasies. Some of this...

Lots of people claim to be an expert in kink and BDSM. I bring this up because recently a couple of people referred to me as an “expert.”...

I stand on the shoulders of giants. Men and women and transfolks who came before me, fought the impossible fights, loved with great...

I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...

I was lucky when it came to discovering kink. There was almost no separation between my first kiss and my awareness of the kink...

I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...