I came out in 1988. Gay rights (it was called Gay rights at the time) were beginning to get some momentum. However, the queer movement...

Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...

I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

Its June, which means its Gay Pride Month (or LGBT Pride, or LGBTQAAI Month, or whatever). Most cities, large and small, have some...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...

8?  25?  105?   300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

American’s are weird about sex. Very weird. We use sex to sell everything in America from hamburgers to perfume to children’s toys. We...

I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex...

I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...

I teach a class about setting a scene from the submissive’s perspective. I spend about 90 minutes talking about engaging the 5 senses and...

September 23rd is Bisexual Awareness Day. Why have a special day for Bisexuals? Because we get hit with fear and distrust from both the...

Want to have amazing sex, and I mean mind-blowingly good sex? Want your partners to think you are the best they have ever had? Want to...

Being part of the kink and BDSM community provides an alternative conception of what is a good sexual encounter.In the vanilla-ish...

I have had the benefit of being part of the both the queer and kink communities for a very long time now. Part of being part of sexual...