I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...

I have been away from this blog for a couple of weeks due to illness. For two and a half years I have been trying to get some chronic...

I want to talk about sources and research about BDSM and D/s relationships. With the development of the Internet, it has become very easy...

Okay, yes, I have done a lot of things. And yes, I have done a lot of people. And sure, I talk about some of it. But, no I haven’t done...

I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/grownups.png xkcd.com/150/ In many, many ways I am a nerd. I am an academic and still default to researching...

HIV/AIDS has played a prominent role in my life. The first volunteer work I started with at 13 was volunteering for an AIDS organization...

Guys, some of us girls have found out your secrets. We know that there are a lot of you who use online dating sites to find Ms. Right Now...

One of the things I like most about the BDSM/kink community is the presence of rules and structure. These come in basic rules for...

My last post about sub space got a flood of responses. Most of the 3,000+ people who replied here and on Fetlife were very complimentary....

Image from www.korucorner.co.nz All rights reserved. When I was an undergrad, I took a course on altered states of consciousness. The...

There is a local comedian in Sacramento who does a great joke. She starts with the premise that her parents used to spank her. Now, she...

I have had the benefit of being part of the both the queer and kink communities for a very long time now. Part of being part of sexual...

I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...

Now that I have been doing interviews with mainstream media folks about kink and non-monogamy, I am learning there are some pretty...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...