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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.

Rebecca Blanton

Aug 21, 2022
1 min

Ayzad: Embracing Duende

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-bhbzt-12a4b26 Guest: Ayzad Former Italian journalist turned kink writer and coach, Ayzad joins Fat Chicks on Top to talk about old vs new approaches to kink, the duend e of sex and what he sees as missing from the modern approach, and the intersection of politics, Catholicism, and sexuality in Italy. Website and Socials Ayzad.com @Ayzad on Twitter @Ayzad_ Official on Instagram —-more—- Fat Chicks on Top merchandise is now available at Au

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Mistress Schari: This Wasn’t Covered in the Book

Rebecca Blanton

Jul 31, 2022
1 min

Mistress Schari: This Wasn’t Covered in the Book

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-8ug3c-1289382 Guest: Mistress Schari, professional Dominatrix Mistress Shari has gone from stripping her way through graduate school to working as a pro-Domme in the New York area. She has worked as a pro Domme for nearly two decades. Schari joins Fat Chicks to talk about finding her passion as a pro Domme, why she does this work, and what she has learned from years in the field. She chats about working with other women, aging, and lovin

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Why is sexting with strangers only possible on a secure chat site?

Rebecca Blanton

Jul 29, 2022
4 min

Why is sexting with strangers only possible on a secure chat site?

SPONSORED POST from AROUSR Chatting with strangers isn’t really something that you have to go out of your way to find. There are lots of different apps and platforms that you can use whenever you want to have a conversation with someone that you don’t know. In fact, there’s a whole article about the different apps that you could be using right now on Cnet. If such a large publication takes the time to highlight something like that then you know that it’s something a lot of pe

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Rebecca Blanton

Jul 24, 2022
2 min

Sexual Fantasy Research

Sponsored Post We don’t tend to talk about sexual fantasies with many people. Too many of us carry shame around the things we know turn us on. This means many of us don’t look for ways to express our desires in a healthy way. For many kinky folks, turing to BDSM is a great way to begin to explore these previously private fantasies. In the past two decades, there has been an increasing amount of academic inquiry to the way we develop fantasies, how they shape our sex lives, an

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A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?

Rebecca Blanton

May 25, 2022
2 min

A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?

I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also provides inspiration when things feel a bit redundant or boring. However, so many sexual bucket lists take two approaches I am not a fan of. The first lists types or people to have sex with. These lists fetishize race, size, fame and are gross in my opinion. The other approach is to list a long set of activities with little context. These ca

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Rebecca Blanton

May 16, 2022
1 min

Rae Luna: I Know I’m Hot

Rae Luna https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-8aszk-1229636 Guest: Rae Luna, burlesque and go-go dancer This week we continue with Erotic Performer Month. Rae Luna is a nonbinary burleque and go-go dancer based in San Francisco, CA. They talk about embracing thier body, how to seduce yourself, being Brown and how that influences their performances and so much more! Rae has performed at Twisted Windows, an even created and hosted by previous Fat Chicks guest Shay Tizano, at

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Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?

Rebecca Blanton

May 3, 2022
4 min

Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?

In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal” kinkster. We privilege folks who claim to have their kink dynamic running all the time, rain or shine, work or play. Firstly, I think this type of privileging of 24/7 is silly. To be in a permanent dynamic all the time means: 1) you must be coupled, 2) you life a life where work, family, and other stuff doesn’t interfere with your dynamic, an

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 11, 2022
1 min

Summer Reading List

Meg Elison, Author I finally got to talk to one of my favorite authors, Meg Elison. She has written the Road to Nowhere series, Big Girl, and a whole lot more! If you read the reviews on this site, you know I fawned over her piece in Best Lesbian Erotica v6. You can listen to my full interview on this week’s Fat Chicks on Top episode 207. One of the great things to come out of this episode was a wonderful reading list! Meg talks about books she loved, those that changed the

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Rebecca Blanton

Mar 28, 2022
4 min

The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!

I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they all say one thing. “I am not a mind reader.” It doesn’t matter if we are talking about how to make scenes hotter, how to improve D/s dynamics, or what frustrates them most with the submissives they encounter, every dominant hates the assumption that they can read your mind. I am not a mind reader. Every Dominant, ever. It is easy to understan

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Rebecca Blanton

Mar 15, 2022
3 min

Should Submissives Express THEIR Needs?

When you are submissive or enjoy being submissive with a partner, navigating your own desires can be tricky. As submissives, we sometime engage in denying our own desires as part of kink play (e.g., orgasm control or denial). Additionally, we prioritize serving the needs of a dominant. However, the reasons people seek out submissive relationships where their desires are low priority or denied are not uniform. Understanding why you are attracted to these types of relationships

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Rebecca Blanton

Feb 27, 2022
1 min

Ep. 201: EARNIT Act & Rainbow Kisses

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-fwe4r-11ba36a We’re BACK!!! EARNIT ACT– Sen. Lindsay Graham is trying to create a way to allow government agencies to read all your DMs on social media, catalogue them, and identify any minors you mention. Understand this bill and how to fight it. Rainbow Kisses- (time 14:07) This is the hot new sex act. Learn about what it is, how to do it, and safety concerns. We are back SUNDAYS with new guests, new issues, and more! Host & Producer:

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One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer

Rebecca Blanton

Feb 21, 2022
2 min

One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer

When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating about sexual submission. The freedom, the deep trust, the connection I feel in this moment is unparalleled. I know I am not alone in this. I have one question for every person exploring submission I talk to about their practice: Why? Why do you submit? Yes, it can be thrilling and freeing. It can meet your needs to let go of responsibility.

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Rebecca Blanton

Feb 5, 2022
6 min

Head Space 101

If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the emotional and cognitive space people want to be in when engaging in kink. It is basically shutting down your squirrel brain (the part that is always making to-do lists, worrying, etc.) and becoming present with the moment AND embodying you role in kink. This little term does a lot of heavy lifting! This post breaks down the different aspects

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How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks

Rebecca Blanton

Jan 24, 2022
4 min

How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks

Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and successful kink scene, “Communicate.” Great! But, what happppens if you are not a big talker? Or if you are shy? Or if you simply hate having long, deep discussions about feelings and needs? Communication for folks who don’t like long talks may seem difficult at first glance. However, there are lots of different forms of communication. See if any o

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Rebecca Blanton

Jan 12, 2022
4 min

Dating in an On-going Pandemic

Being single, or at least being in a position to date, during the pandemic is challenging. We all crave human touch and interaction. We also all have a level of risk we are personally comfortable with. With the numbers of COVID infections skyrocketing to distrubing levels, what can you do to date, stay safe(r), and still get some basic needs met? Take All Reasonable Precautions There are basic and reasonable precautions to take during this pandemic. For almost all adults, get

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Rebecca Blanton

Dec 26, 2021
2 min

Getting What You Want in 2022: Step 1

It is almost the end of 2021. I know mine has been exhausting. While the career aspect is going strong and health is slowly improving, other areas have been trying… to put it gently. Its the time of year we sit and reflect on what has happened, what we wanted to happen, and the gap between. It is also a time we start to think about how we want to approach the new year. While I have never been a big New Year’s resolution fan, preferring to set and change goals throughout the y

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Rebecca Blanton

Nov 29, 2021
3 min

Which Nipple Clips are Right for You?

There are many styles of nipple clips out there? How do you find the one’s which are right for you? Nipples are erogenous zones for all genders. While most cis-women have had their’s played with and know what works and does not work for them, in terms of stimulation, fewer cis-men and trans folks have had their nipples played with as a key aspect of sex. Nipple play often enhances arousal. In fact, some people can reach climax through nipple stimulation alone! Adding nipple c

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Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives

Rebecca Blanton

Nov 1, 2021
3 min

Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives

Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other relatives in the house it can be hard to express your kink with a partner as you would if you were alone or with other kinky folks. So, what is a wild and kinky guy to do? Here are ways to practice your kink and power exchange without alerting others! Use “Sir” or “Madam/Miss” Honorifics If your power exchange relationship involves using ho

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Rebecca Blanton

Oct 23, 2021
5 min

BDSM Tips for Beginners

Sponsored Post from HotCherry.com Of all sex practices, BDSM might just be the most misunderstood. Many people associate it with extremes, believe it inflicts emotional or physical harm, or see it as something that’s abnormally perverse, beyond kinky. However, beginners need to understand that all of these views are exaggerated. BDSM incorporates the categories of dominance/submission, bondage/discipline, and sadism/masochism. As long as you’re able to discuss boundaries with

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4 Unexepected ways Audio Porn is Better Than Sex

Rebecca Blanton

Oct 7, 2021
5 min

4 Unexepected ways Audio Porn is Better Than Sex

By April Sutphen Sponsored Post Some people might argue that there’s no better feeling in the world than having sex, when in actuality, they’re likely referring to the grande finale of sex — the orgasm, of course! Having an orgasm not only feels good but it’s actually good for your health too. Studies show that frequent sex improves cardiovascular health, reduces the risk of heart disease, and may even help combat anxiety and depression. Sex also offers emotional benefits lik

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