Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...

It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...

I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

In Kentucky, Democrat Mary Lou Marzain has introduced House Bill 369. HB369 requires men to get their partner’s permission before...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

I have written before in this blog about living with and engaging in power exchange relationships while living with a mental illness. I...

Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

I love sex! I do. And I think sex is important to most healthy romantic relationships. The old adage is sex is about ten percent of any...

Okay ladies, let’s talk about hair. You know, the hair down there. When I went back out on the dating scene about five years ago I...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017...

People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about...