Copyright Eddy-Shinjuku. All rights reserved. I have the great pleasure of talking to lots of people about their fantasies. Some of this...

Lots of people claim to be an expert in kink and BDSM. I bring this up because recently a couple of people referred to me as an “expert.”...

So I found the above meme last week on Facebook. I have shared it with a few dozen friends. Almost unanimously we laugh and identify...

Being part of the kink and BDSM community provides an alternative conception of what is a good sexual encounter.In the vanilla-ish...

How to identify the difference between BDSM discipline, BDSM punishment, and abuse in a realtionsihp.

I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...

Now that I have been doing interviews with mainstream media folks about kink and non-monogamy, I am learning there are some pretty...

I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...

The more I talk to people about the kink and BDSM world, the more I realize how many people do not see this world the way I do. For some...

Let’s be honest, most of us at some point have faked an orgasm. Even the guys I know have fessed up to faking it on occasion. Yes, I know...

Conceptions and understanding of race in America have long fascinated me. Race, at least for Americans, is generally a primary...

I need to clear something up. Kinky folks do not use the term “vanilla” as a derogatory term. For us, it is simply a way to...

I have a language problem. No, it’s not cursing (living with a 14 year old made me clean that up). It has to do with the language we use...

This is an open letter to anyone who has recently discovered that there is a kinky world out there and they now think they want to...

For a long time it was odd to me that I could be in a social situation where my multiple intimate partners were present, we would all be...

Like most American girls, I was raised with a specific idea of what romance looked like. Romance was a guy bringing you flowers on the...

There are several avidly anti-porn groups that are doing huge social media pushes asking people to boycott 50 Shades of Grey. The general...

This is the beginning of a list of vetted BDSM and kink resources. This list is intended for educational purposes, not erotica or...

(Thank you Aunt Nan for inspiring this post with your last email.) In the last year I have disclosed a couple of facts about me that most...

With the upcoming release of 50 Shades the movie, there is a lot of talk on mainstream blogs about kink (e.g., Huff Post, Slate, NYT)....