This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

With the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...

Hello Readers! Sorry I have been away for so long. I had a severe infection and no help from doctors. But, despite the deplorable state...

I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly...

It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...

I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

We are six days out from the shock of the cheeto’s election. Things are starting to clarify how various social justice groups are going...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...

The worst part of the aftermath of being raped was being told over and over again that I must report the rape. Every health professional...