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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20244 min read
Yes/No/Maybe List for Mental Health Symtpoms
Helpful tool for identifying the symptoms you have and what symptoms you are comfortable with in an intimate partner
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 23, 20246 min read
Can People with Mental Illness Consent?
Can people lliving with mental illness fully consent to BDSM play?
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20245 min read
Risk-Aware Kink Quiz
Take a short quiz and test your knowledge of Risk Aware Kink!
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 12, 20244 min read
Erotic Choking 101
There is no safe or "safer" way to erotically choke someone. Louder for those of you with earbuds in: THERE IS NO SAFE OR "SAFER" WAY TO...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20243 min read
I Can’t Ask For That! What to do when you are embarrassed about what you want in bed
If you are a frequent reader of sex advice columns, you will quickly come to notice the number of letters which begin “I am so...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 7, 20245 min read
The Gift of "No."
We are at the start of a new calendar year. This means folks out here with lots of resolutions to do new things, restart practices they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 6, 20234 min read
Asking for It
I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 28, 20233 min read
Deeper and Deeper....
The physical activities of kink - spanking, tying up people, blindfolds- are what most folks think this lifestyle is all about. Putting...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 13, 20237 min read
Security Protocols: How Adding Protocols to Your Relationship May Reduce Anxiety
Anxiety is a common mental health issue. Protocols in a relationship can help reduce and manage it.
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 7, 20234 min read
Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20224 min read
Find a New Kink for 2023
As we close one calendar year and move into the next, many of us take time to evaluate and make goals or wishes for the coming year. If...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 3, 20227 min read
Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20225 min read
Undoing Religious Damage with BDSM
How to start addressing trauma and damage from a sex-negative upbringing.
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 19, 20225 min read
Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top, you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 26, 20226 min read
This Could Save Your Life!
Kink play can be intense! That is part of the fun of it. We play physically and psychologically hard. Weather you are into impact play,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 10, 20224 min read
Unfuck Yourself for Pride
Being part of the LGBTQ+ community means growning up in societies where we are not supported or embraced by the majority. If we are lucky...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 25, 20222 min read
A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?
I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 8, 20221 min read
Shay Tizano: Bound Up in Joy
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-amw4e-121fc8c Guest: Shay Tizano, Rope expert, Erotic Performer Author of Tying and Flying and...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 3, 20224 min read
Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?
In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 22, 20224 min read
7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
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