Is BDSM Inescapably Racist?
I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 30, 20165 min
Why We Should Care About Sex Tapes
This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 26, 20167 min
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 18, 20163 min
The Necessity of Loving Your Body
I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 14, 20163 min
Americans Love Rape
The worst part of the aftermath of being raped was being told over and over again that I must report the rape. Every health professional...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20164 min
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20165 min
Triggers
Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20164 min
Protecting Men with a National Safe Word
By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 28, 20163 min
Naked, On Display, and Empowered
I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20165 min
Polyamory as a Sexual Orientation???
Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 17, 20165 min
Do It For the Children! Media Representation
What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement, but most people- even those who agree- often...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 2, 20165 min
D-types and Mental Illness
After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20163 min
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 11, 20164 min
Why are you surprised???
When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 8, 20163 min
“Did you say ‘no?'”
When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 6, 20164 min
Submission and Mental Illness
My first serious girlfriend told me I was not worth the risk to marry because I had Bipolar. She knew this when we got together. Still,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 25, 20165 min
Masculinity
I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 23, 20164 min
So, What is Sex-Positive & Why Do I Care?
Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 19, 20163 min
My Dad, My Mom and My Strength
The first time I was really made aware of the fact that I was a “girl” was in first grade. Until this point, I had remained blissfully...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 16, 20164 min
Sex-First! Polyamory Culture
First, let me get a few things in the open (if you are not already familiar). One, I like sex. I like it a lot and believe it should be...
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