Expanding Your Kink
January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...
Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 11, 2021
- 3 min
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist:4 years later
Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 8, 2020
- 9 min
Subordinate Clause
Happy Holidays! Here is a little kinky holiday porn for y’all. CW: Impact play, body fluids Elise sat by the fire on the early morning of...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 3, 2020
- 3 min
New Year! Better, Kinkier YOU!
I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 30, 2020
- 4 min
Vaginal Dryness? It’s More Than “Just Add Lube”
I am a huge fan of lube as a normal part of sex. I have been using it since I discovered it in my teens. It is essential for fisting,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 21, 2020
- 5 min
Happy Spanksgiving! Holiday Gift Ideas for the Kinky Set
The saying is giving is better than recieving, but I think that depends on what side of the slash you are working from! Looking for...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 16, 2020
- 10 min
Having a Hard Time Feeling Sexy? You are Not Alone!
Its been a hard year. A. Very. Hard. Year. Between COVID lockdowns and restrictions, the election, the United States beginning to recon...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 31, 2020
- 5 min
Election 2020 and Erotic Power
With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 15, 2020
- 4 min
Anticipatory Service
Many of us identify as “service submissives.” We enjoy serving others (at least we enjoy serving a D-type). Some of us (including me)...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 17, 2020
- 3 min
How Your Body and Sex Appeal Change as You Age
Guest Post By Peter Minkoff As we age, many things will unavoidably change – for the better of the worse. But you know what? Even though...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 8, 2020
- 1 min
The Future of Gender
I did an interview for Unleash Their PoTEENtial a free, online teen summit about the future of gender (spoiler alert: its nonbinary)....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 14, 2020
- 10 min
30 Days of Kinky Self Discovery
A formatted and printable version of this post is located here: 30 days of kinky self-discoveryDownload I’ll be honest. I have been...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 30, 2020
- 3 min
5 Best Sex Toys to Rock Your Queer World
Guest Post by Peter Minkoff Peter Minkoff is a writer for High Style Life in Australia (and has great advice, IMHO– Auntie Vice) If...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 23, 2020
- 8 min
Fisting 101
So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 12, 2020
- 5 min
Pride: Be Queer. Fuck the Patriarchy
Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2020
- 3 min
BDSM Resources (updated 01.09.22)
I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 4, 2020
- 3 min
Submission and Control
A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 22, 2020
- 4 min
Six Sexting Tips
With shelter in place orders dragging on more folks are trying sexting and sexy video chatting as an alternative to in-person hook-ups....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 16, 2020
- 9 min
When “D” in BDSM Stands for Dissimilar
Hot take: A majority of folks you date will have dissimilar sexual needs and tastes than you do. Most couples I have met over my 40+...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 9, 2020
- 3 min
How to Swing Safely During the COVID-19 Pandemic
Sponsored post: Swingtown Half the world has shut down and it’s expected to be around 14 months — at least — before a coronavirus vaccine...
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