January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Holidays! Here is a little kinky holiday porn for y’all. CW: Impact play, body fluids Elise sat by the fire on the early morning of...

I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...

I am a huge fan of lube as a normal part of sex. I have been using it since I discovered it in my teens. It is essential for fisting,...

The saying is giving is better than recieving, but I think that depends on what side of the slash you are working from! Looking for...

Its been a hard year. A. Very. Hard. Year. Between COVID lockdowns and restrictions, the election, the United States beginning to recon...

With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...

Many of us identify as “service submissives.” We enjoy serving others (at least we enjoy serving a D-type). Some of us (including me)...

Guest Post By Peter Minkoff As we age, many things will unavoidably change – for the better of the worse. But you know what? Even though...

I did an interview for Unleash Their PoTEENtial a free, online teen summit about the future of gender (spoiler alert: its nonbinary)....

A formatted and printable version of this post is located here: 30 days of kinky self-discoveryDownload I’ll be honest. I have been...

Guest Post by Peter Minkoff Peter Minkoff is a writer for High Style Life in Australia (and has great advice, IMHO– Auntie Vice) If...

So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...

Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....

I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...

A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...

With shelter in place orders dragging on more folks are trying sexting and sexy video chatting as an alternative to in-person hook-ups....

Hot take: A majority of folks you date will have dissimilar sexual needs and tastes than you do. Most couples I have met over my 40+...

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