If you read much sex writing or feminist think pieces you are probably innunadate with work on the ‘orgasm gap’ and the admonition to...

Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It...

Photo by Kindel Media on Pexels.com Weed is now legal in 18 U.S. states and the District of Columbia; two countries (Canada and Uruguay)...

As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...

Sex toys are prolific! They range from the cheap to the ridiculously expensive. From reputable brands to knock-offs to independent...

If you are into role playing, most likely you are familiar with the classics: student/teacher, parent/child, landowner/servant,...

One think a lot of people new to kink and BDSM find surprising is that even with the most experienced kinky folks, we can get a bit bored...

Listen on Spotify Want to stimulate the biggest sex organ for anyone? You need to get their brain aroused! While many of us rely on...

Listen on Spotify One of my favorite scenes from a movie is the therapy scene in the beginning of The Ref. Judy Davis and Kevin Spacey...

I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...

I am a huge fan of lube as a normal part of sex. I have been using it since I discovered it in my teens. It is essential for fisting,...

With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...

Guest Post By Peter Minkoff As we age, many things will unavoidably change – for the better of the worse. But you know what? Even though...

A formatted and printable version of this post is located here: 30 days of kinky self-discoveryDownload I’ll be honest. I have been...

Howdy readers! I taught my “Deepening Your Submission” workshop last night through Wicked Grounds Annex. Participants asked that I put...

One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that...

I am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many...

I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...

One of the things I have always loved about BDSM and kink is the value it puts on play. Kinky folks call all the different activities we...

Most folks I meet assume that I have sex all the time so I must not need to masturbate. Truth be told, my partner lives a couple of hours...