Aftercare is a frequently mentioned idea in kink/BDSM classes and touted as “important” for safe, sane, and consensual play. Most of the...

In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...

As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...

It’s Pride month. Time to celebrate being your kinky, queer self! It is also the time of year for a deluge of rainbow-colored ads...

Books This is a list of queer books that have stayed with me. I provide only the citation and genre so that you can enjoy them without...

You are probably familiar with mantras. They are short statements or words said repeatedly to help focus you. They are rooted in Buddhism...

We all know that drawer- the on in the bedside table which houses all the most used, go-to devices and more! I keep all my most essential...

Listen on Spotify Finding out your partner has cheated on you is often devastating. Regardless of your relationship style (monogamous,...

Sex toys are prolific! They range from the cheap to the ridiculously expensive. From reputable brands to knock-offs to independent...

I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...

If you are into role playing, most likely you are familiar with the classics: student/teacher, parent/child, landowner/servant,...

One think a lot of people new to kink and BDSM find surprising is that even with the most experienced kinky folks, we can get a bit bored...

Most people who teach kink and BDSM play classes will mention having the appropriate safety equipment around in case of emergency....

Things are beginning to open back up in the United States and elsewhere. While we are not at a point with public health to fully reopen...

Physical accessibility is only part of the picture when it comes to making spaces and events accessible. That is often the easy part! If...

I miss going to dungeons and play parties! I can’t wait for the world to finally be able to safely reopen. That said, I don’t want things...

Listen on Spotify Want to stimulate the biggest sex organ for anyone? You need to get their brain aroused! While many of us rely on...

Listen on Spotify One of my favorite scenes from a movie is the therapy scene in the beginning of The Ref. Judy Davis and Kevin Spacey...

Safe words are one of the most referenced kink ideas. The concept of a simple word which stops all action and indicates someone is not...

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching (again). Even if you are jaded toward this corporate day of forced romance and sex, you can still...